One thing that I’ve been wondering for a while, especially since writing my own blog, is are all mummy bloggers loners? Specifically ‘mummy’ bloggers.
I don’t mean that in a derogatory way. I’d describe myself as a bit of a loner. An introvert I guess. I like my own company, time to do things I want to do. Maybe that’s what happens when you have kids? You treasure the time when the house is empty?
I’ve noticed many of the mummy bloggers and vloggers I follow tend to spend a lot of their time alone (or just with the kids). The majority of their day is spent in the house or garden with only their children for company and when they finally get the kids to bed or the husbands gone out they blog, comment on other blogs and socialise through social media.
I heard a quote the other day that seemed to resonate with me “The smarter the phone, the dumber the person”. I’m not sure if I agree with this but it made me think how times have changed. When I was younger I’d spend an hour on the telephone actually talking to my friends, friends who I’d seen at school two hours earlier. The thought of spending an hour on the phone to someone now is just weird a) because I don’t have anyone I would consider a good enough friend to talk to for that long and b.) I would miss out on doing stuff at home that I want to do.
It’s a bit of a chicken and egg situation. Does blogging make you a lonely/introverted person or is it that lonely, introverted people tend to blog? Or, can you have it all? Kids, a husband, an active and successful blog and a whole load of friends which you see often? I’d love to hear what you think and how you see yourself on the scale of extrovert/introvert.
Being a mum I guess makes you a little more housebound then you used to be – putting the kids down for a nap or maintaining that crucial routine, but does that then lead you down the social media route? It’s a slippery path. My husband didn’t know a tweet from a like three years ago but now loves to catch up with all his mates and football news online. It’s a nightly ritual that we get into bed and look at our phones before finally putting them on the bedside table and saying goodnight. I wonder what we’d talk about if we didn’t have our phones?
I’ve often wondered if blogging replaces friends. Does a blog act as a sounding board. Do I empty all those daily thoughts on to my blog instead of communicating with a real life person and exchanging opinions? Yes, I think I probably do.
I work from home, not just blogging, but I have a real, paid part time job that usually means I don’t speak to another sole for days on end between the hours of 8-6pm. Since changing my hours from full time to part time and from office based to home based I’ve noticed a massive shift in my confidence. The thought of going to a meeting scares me a little (ok, a lot) and the judgey eyes and small talk in the office is something I’d rather do without. I’m content in my own little corner of the house, with my laptop and my notepad. I don’t have interruptions or chats over the coffee machine. I’ve definitely become introverted and anxious. Is it just coincidence I love blogging or is it something a lot of mummy bloggers feel?